Perhaps you are in the midst of planning yourself, documenting the process online with every picture and status update. This sharing is only natural, particularly for our generation; a wedding is a momentous occasion in your life, and you want to share the excitement with all your friends.
But when it comes to social media and holy matrimony, is there a line we should not cross? Here are a few simple rules so you can share your wedding excitement without causing undue stress:
When You Get Engaged
Do: Post a Picture Of The Ring. Think about it: how many girlfriends, family, and even check out girls have said since your engagement, “He proposed? Let’s see the ring!” The engagement ring is a beautiful, tangible symbol of the love you share, so of course everyone will want to see it! A photo of the ring on Instagram or Facebook is a great way to announce your engagement to all the friends in your life.
Don’t: Post the Picture Without Telling Mum and Dad. As we just said, a photo of the ring is a great way to announce your engagement to your friends. But your family is another story altogether – they have been a part of your relationship since day one, and they’ll certainly be there for you throughout your marriage. Parents and close friends deserve to hear about the engagement in person (or, if that’s not possible, at least a call on Facetime). So before you press “send” on that shot of the ring, make sure both your families are in the know.
During the Wedding Planning
Do: Spread the Word – and the Hashtag. We’re sure you’ve seen those wedding hashtags making their rounds on your Facebook feed: #MstoMrs, #WilliamsWedding2017, #HappilyEverAfter. On top of being an adorable way to remind everyone of your pending nuptials, the wedding hashtag is a great way to keep all your important wedding information just a click away. Start using the hashtag early on and encourage your bridal party and guests to use it, too. This way, you won’t miss a single wedding-related post – no matter who sends it.
Don’t: Vent Wedding Stress Online. I know, mothers-in-law are a pain, but you don’t need to announce it in an angry post! Keep your wedding talk positive when you are posting in such a public forum, or you just might find that you’ve stirred up more drama than you intended. Whether it’s late RSVPs, an unreliable wedding planner, or a disaster at the dress fitting, just let it go when it comes time to post: you never know who might be watching.
On the Big Day
Do: Have a “Tweeter of Honor.” Unfortunately, not everyone will be able to make it to your wedding – it’s just a fact. Out-of-towners, people at work, or people with scheduling conflicts will miss the blessed occasion, but this doesn’t mean that they don’t care! A “tweeter of honor” is someone who will use your social media to post updates throughout the day, keeping your friends and family up to date while you enjoy the moment. Find a tech-savvy groomsmen or bridesmaid and put them to work – you have a wedding to attend.
Don’t: Be the “Tweeter of Honor.” Do you know what will ruin your wedding? Spending it staring at your phone, instead of at the love of your life. Make sure your social media is out of sight and out of mind on the big day – delegate the work to a member of the bridal party, or simply don’t worry about it until the next day. All that matters on your special day is that you and the person you are spending your life with have time to celebrate each other and the love you both share.
by Naomi Shaw