You love your mum to bits and you guys get along amazingly, but she just called and asked if she can come to your hens party. Now what? Well, sorry Knotties, there’s no right or wrong answer here. Read on for your options…
Basically, it all comes down to your relationship with your mum and if you’re comfortable with the idea. If your first thought is “of course!” then the answer is really simple — invite her along! Sure it may not be the norm, but it’s your wedding and you should have whoever you want at your hens party whether it’s going to be raunchy or relaxed.
If you’re uncertain or downright against your mum attending, then you may need handle the situation a bit more carefully. First of all, it’s totally OK to say “no” to this request — in the nicest way possible of course – even if you’re not having the heavy-drinking, sex-toy-gift-giving, all-night-clubbing kind of bash. Here’s more tips for how to tell mum she’s not invited to your hens.
This is our advice for just about anything where feelings and relationships are involved. Instead of giving a vague response like “we’ll see!” or putting a a decision off until later, just be upfront about the fact that you only want your friends and bridesmaids at the hens night. She’ll probably be completely understanding if you list your reasons you’d rather not have her there. And if you get some pushback, try to talk it out and even offer an alternative. Which brings us to our next point…
Plan a two-part bachelorette party.
Dinner, a cooking class, spa treatments and crafts are just a few of the family-friendly ways you can start off your hens. Then that night (or later on in the night) plan to do all the things you’d want to without your mum. That way mum feels like she’s part of the gang and you can still have a parent-free night later on. This is also a great idea if you have underage family who you want to feel included.
Schedule a mother-daughter date.
Think about the reasons why she might be asking to come. Maybe she feels like she hasn’t had the chance to spend enough time with you in the lead-up to the wedding and is feeling left out. If that’s the case, you could set aside some time for just you and her to talk and enjoy each other’s company. Think an arvo session at a day spa or inviting her around for dinner and a girly rom-com.
Tell us, Knotties, are you planning to invite your mum to your hens?
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