- April 16, 2014 at 4:07 pm #437897
Call me naive, but I had always thought a wishing will was just that, cards and well-wishes/advice. It wasn’t until I started planning my own wedding that I realised that people put money in there as well.
I’m not a huge fan of gifts in general, I want our guests to enjoy the day and not feel obliged to spend anything on us. I had originally planned to have no gifts at all (or a charity donation), but when we got engaged family and friends went out of their way to ask what we wanted (we said they didn’t have to get us anything, but they insisted and asked what we needed. At the time we were planning to move in together, so we kept it at that and guests ended up stressing because they didn’t know what we needed). Now I’m wondering what to do about the wishing well.
After a lot of thought we decided that we’ll make a registry of practical items that were inexpensive for people who really want to give something. I’d love to see cards and notes from the guests, but I don’t want it to look like a money-grab. Is there an alternative form of wishing well or way to let everyone know we’re not asking for money?
June 25, 2014 at 4:47 pm #443657
I think you have done a good job by selecting wedding registry decision. Wedding registry can provide guidance to guest what wedding couple need and what they will require in setting new home. But most important thing is how would you inform your guest about wedding registry, otherwise they might think that you are more interested in gifts. Better idea is to create a wedding webpage having wedding details and mention list of wedding registry sites. There are many online store that will help you in this case.July 2, 2014 at 7:07 pm #444470
There are a whole bunch of ways you could ask for well wishes that don’t mean money.
Like a fancy guest book or something more crafty like this: http://www.pinterest.com/pin/506584658057328936/ or http://www.pinterest.com/pin/506584658057210390/ Another option is to have guesets do a “date night” popsicle stick for you as a fun thing : http://www.pinterest.com/pin/506584658054709851/
Hope that helps
July 7, 2014 at 2:51 pm #445238
Thanks for your help guys, I saw an idea where it was clearly labelled as ‘Cards’ instead of a ‘Wishing well’ and thought that may make it more clear, we definitely want some sort of guest list though, and I really liked the idea of the the tree that Gina posted (unfortunately the second link didn’t work though). I’m pretty crafty so I’m sure I could whip something up :).
July 21, 2014 at 6:37 pm #446421
FH and I don’t want gifts either. At the moment we are thinking of this
“No need for gifts your presence is our present. Please be sure to sign our guest book.”
December 27, 2014 at 1:25 pm #474429
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