Hands up, who has ever sat through a wedding ceremony that outstayed its own welcome? Yeah, I see those hands rising. You know the one. Where everyone begins wriggling in their uncomfortable seats after the first 50 minutes and the bride’s Nana fell asleep at the front. This is something that I am very aware of and do not want to subject our guests to, however, as it turns out, we may have the exact opposite problem!
My bride to be and I are straight shooters. Neither of us want a flowery service where love is defined for ten minutes. Nor do we want to subject our guests to answering questions in unison, knowing full well that if they stray from the herd they’ll be punished with bridal death stares which may end in spontaneous combustion.
We began with some helpful texts which were provided to us by our celebrant. While the examples were still too flowery for our tastes, it did provide us with a framework and an idea of what needs to be said. From there we turned to our good old faithful advisor Mr Google to help with civil ceremonies. We found a few which really spoke to us and to our stage of life. They spoke more of friendship and the future, rather than dwelling on love for too long.
photo by: Kelly Hornberger Photography
Once we had completed our first draft of what we would like our ceremony to look like (minus the vows and readings) we sent it off to our celebrant hoping that it was all done and we could tick this off of our list. No such luck! The reply conveyed a concern that the service was only 500 words and would be all over before anybody had a chance to sit down! Hmm. She is obviously quite keen to see the readings we’ve not yet chosen and to hear our vows.
But I’m at a loss of what more to add in? We have the Welcome, Definition of marriage, Vows and the giving of the rings. Oh, and the Readings (which does include walking time, to and from their seats). Will we just be padding out the ceremony for the sake of it and dilute the meaning of what we have written?
For those out there in the same predicament, I’d love to hear what you’ve put in your ceremony.
How have you padded your ceremony out? What is a good length for a ceremony?
by Simon Prentice